When you are anything less than happy for others it blocks your own chance at success and happiness. I am a firm believer that when it comes to people “like attracts like.” So when you wallow in the belief that you don’t have what someone else has you are attracting more of what you’re feeling: lack.

When you celebrate and are happy for the success of others you are sending a message to yourself and others that you are ready for success. Plus keep in mind that who you hang around rubs off on you. If someone in your circle is rising it is more probable that they will to take you up with them, and if they are falling it is more likely that they will take you down with them as well.

Why frown on another’s good fortune? It doesn’t make you feel better, it doesn’t reflect any positivity on you and it certainly won’t create good things for you.

When you see the awesome experiences other people are having chances are it will open up possibilities for you. When a friend, family member, or someone else lands that dream job with a sweet paycheck, meet that perfect guy or gal, or just seems to be having fortune hurled at them, it is easy to fall into the jealousy trap. But seeing that such a great reality exists can, instead, give you something to aim for. It can show you the amazing possibilities that are present and attainable in the world.

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On the flip side remember that EVERYTHING IS TEMPORARY, AND THE TABLES ARE CONSTANTLY TURNING. The exceptional wealth you see a friend experiencing could be gone within a year. The relationship you witness and long for could be over within a month. The string of unfortunate circumstances you’ve been struggling with could turn around in a day.

In no way am I implying that we should celebrate or take comfort in knowing that another’s success and blessings are temporary. Rather, understanding this helps you realize that you are not the only person who is going or has gone through hard times. Circumstances are constantly changing, so to spend a great deal of time and energy stressing over them or wishing for something different is, frankly, a waste. And back to what I said earlier, celebrate the good that comes in the world. Often our world may seem dark so we need to cherish the light even if it is shining on another.

Appreciate and express gratitude for the experience you are having right now. No matter how negative it may seem on the surface. If you do this you will receive the greater capacity for appreciating the positive experiences when they begin to show up.

Maybe you aren’t exactly where you want to be in life. You don’t have the career success or the relationship satisfaction of those around you. But when you work through hard things you are achieving something great, growth. Growth will make room for the changes you are longing for.

Don’t give jealousy the time of day. It will plant a misconception in your mind that the man or woman you are is not enough. Hardships or things that you can’t have now that are placed in your life are not there to point out your inadequacies, but to create an entirely new experience that will be more fulfilling and more suited for you.

Also instead of envying what other women or men have, appreciate and love what you have.